It doesn’t really matter who you are, young or old, kid, adult, or teen. We all want (and deserve) and sense of safety. And I’m not just talking about safety as in feeling safe from physical dangers. I’m also talking about the sense of safety that comes from feeling emotionally safe.
Generally, that sense of safety also comes with a feeling of contentment, of belonging and feeling loved. You see, one thing I have come to realize recently is that that sense of emotional safety, that sense of belonging and contentment, can be fragile. More fragile than I think many of us care to admit.
Right now, in the world as it is- nearly 7 months into the Corona Virus pandemic, I would imagine that many of us can relate to that sense of safety- of security (both physical and emotional) being shaken.
However, isn’t it our right to feel secure? Isn’t it our right to be able to feel at peace? Aren’t we entitled to have an unshaken sense of security?
I would like to answer those questions with an emphatic YES!
So then, what about those kids and adults that don’t have that? What about the kids and adults that have spent the majority of their life in a fight/flight or freeze mode and don’t even realize it?
I’m one of those people. I spent a great deal of my life in a freeze state. I was the “shy” child. I was the child that didn’t talk to others very often. I was the child that wouldn’t raise her hand unless she was 100% sure of the answer because I didn’t want to get it wrong or for it to seem like I didn’t know what I was talking about. I didn’t feel “content” or happy in myself. And it’s not because I had an overly difficult childhood, nor did I endure (thankfully) any major traumas.
I did however, have an unintegrated Fear Paralysis Reflex. I’ve spoken about this reflex before, but basically, it’s the “freeze” in the fight/flight/freeze response.
And when did I finally integrate (finish) this Fear Paralysis reflex? When Brain Fit came into my life- first as a client, and then as a coach. I integrated the reflex and am no longer the “shy” one. I talk to people, I willingly raise my hand in a workshop and am ok with being wrong. I feel content and happy most of the time, and when I don’t, I have tools (and people) to help me get back on track.
At Brain Fit Academy, we work with kids, teens and adults all the time that have lost that sense of security, that have lost that sense of contentment. Or maybe- like me, they never really knew it well to begin with.
You see, when you can gain that safety back, when you feel comfortable and content with yourself and feel emotionally secure, things are easier. They just are. They are easier.
And that’s what Brain Fit does. We help make life easier.
I’m eternally grateful for my life getting easier. Do you (or your child) need that too?